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This is my story of accepting reality and navigating the right direction to move forward. In today’s confusing and messy social climate, it is easy to give in. I have witnessed many friends drifting back to old customs because change is uncomfortable and sometimes frightening. That is why grounding ourselves is more important than ever.


It is hard to keep peace of mind with constant agitating news and difficult to focus. We must take a step back and reevaluate where we stand—our common ground. On a national scale, we understand that not everyone agrees on everything. However, one consensus remains simple: we want good people to lead us, regardless of their vision.


But how do we differentiate good leadership from bad? In the age of social media, popularity often defines leadership. The critical question is, what do we honestly expect from those we entrust with our votes, our trust, and our tax dollars? Politicians can say whatever they believe is best for the people, and when we like them, we sometimes tolerate their flaws. But no one likes being conned by scammers.


Let’s talk about popularity. We love entertainment and willingly spend money on it. But is running a country the same as running an entertainment business? What about those who struggle daily to make ends meet? What about the people who need help? As a responsible citizen, I want the leaders to care about them representing me. I want them to lead with compassion. But don’t get me wrong—I believe in strong leadership because, without it, we crumble. But here’s my issue with popular leaders:

  1. Leaders who are intelligent and popular but lack empathy 

When leaders create policies that do not support the poor, the weak, or the marginalized, we lose people—our family members, neighbors, and friends who fall into those categories. In the eyes of these leaders, fairness is not a priority.

  1. Leaders who are inconsistent and fail to follow through 

Empty promises lead to betrayal. These leaders manipulate us, steal from us, and create illusions. Eventually, we recognize the deception, but by then, the damage is catastrophic. They corrode our morality and destroy the foundation of trust in our society, making it difficult to cultivate ethical business environments. Con artists and scammers thrive in such chaos, preying on the vulnerable.

  1. Leaders who equate money with power 

Let’s face it—America once prided itself on diversity, but now we teeter on extremes. Some leaders believe money can buy power, embodying the theme of the reality show American Greed. When money dictates power, their priority becomes wealth accumulation, not the people. In this scenario, you and I don’t get to choose freedom. We are only granted what they deem acceptable.


Now, you may wonder what makes me say these things. I promised to share my story.

I grew up under a dictatorship during my teenage years. When the dictator was assassinated, I remember feeling an unexpected sadness, as if the world had ended, simply because I had never known anything else. I didn’t understand democracy.

As an adult, I once married a con man because I believed in his promises. The experience was deeply damaging, but at the time, I didn’t see the reality for what it was.

Later, as a nurse working in a psychiatric ward, I saw firsthand the devastating effects on mental health.

So, my conclusion? This chaos is a continuation of a mental health crisis. If we don’t get our priorities straight, we will collapse. But if we face these crises head-on, we could emerge stronger than ever.

 
 
 

We live with diverse cultures. It does not have to be different ethnicity to talk about cultural differences. The same school or location does not mean sharing the same belief system. Coexistence is the foundation of individual freedom that the Constitution warrants, especially in times of division. Whether we like it or not, we have to learn acceptance and tolerance from strangers within us unless we deny the reality.


Yes, we need cultural competency.

I started studying the cultural differences as much as I could to serve. However, cultural competency is more than just studying and understanding people and their behavior. Feeling comfortable in a society full of strangers from different cultural backgrounds takes a lot of inner work. Knowing and understanding do not mean building human bonds because we are all strangers to one another without connection.

My lightbulb moment is when I realize I carry a culturally superior attitude. I believed that I was more ethical and morally superior to others. But who am I to judge others right or wrong? Everyone is right from where they are. Yes, I learned cultural humility from that enlightened moment.


Cultural Humility

American culture is much more masculine compared to what I am accustomed to, to the extent of feeling aggressive. There is no right or wrong in that. I have learned to see the goodness of that and feel comfortable with the straightforward communication style. Again, it was me who judged the culture with my own cultural filters. When I removed the glasses, accepting and tolerating the differences became easier.

Cultural humility is just like that: taking off your glasses and seeing the real colors.


The beauty of different cultures is that we connect by sharing humanism. We can connect more by sharing other people's human experiences, feelings, and goodness. Do you have the courage to take off your glasses and see the world differently?



Reference

Greene-Moton E, Minkler M. Cultural Competence or Cultural Humility? Moving Beyond the Debate. Health Promotion Practice. 2020;21(1):142-145. doi:10.1177/1524839919884912

 
 
 

A healthy diet is boring, as says my husband. Many Americans, especially men, would agree with him. In this muscular football country, most men have difficulty imagining eating green leafy vegetables like a rabbit. Why leafy green vegetables? It is a common agreement within the medical community that a healthy diet includes more leafy green vegetables and fruits, unprocessed raw food, and plenty of water. However, depending on the individual's conditions, there are more to consider in that framework.

Now, Americans realize the importance of a healthy diet is one thing, but accepting the scientific facts and creating a healthy eating culture are other things. We have heard that many chronic diseases, such as type 2 diabetes, are preventable by changing eating habits and exercising more. CDC reported that undiagnosed diabetes and pre-diabetes are almost 1/3 of the US population. It sounds like nearly every other person has diabetes condition, whether type 1 and 2 or pre-diabetes. The more common it is, the more difficult it is to change the culture. Of course, change comes with resistance, which means you feel odd when you try something new and healthy.

It might be more significant for your heart health in different health data. You have metabolic syndrome if you have two or more out of high blood glucose, high cholesterol, low HDL (high-density lipoprotein <50), high blood pressure, and BMI over 25. Metabolic syndrome increases your risk for heart attack, stroke, and type 2 diabetes because these conditions clog blood vessels over time. One day, you will be in an ambulance if you don't do anything about it.

Ultimately, it is up to you. You can follow the cultural norm, but if you want a healthier future, you must find your why. Why do you want to be healthier?

In the end, my husband says a healthy diet does not have to be boring.



References

Fehér, A., Gazdecki, M., Véha, M., Szakály, M., & Szakály, Z. (2020). A Comprehensive Review of the Benefits of and the Barriers to the Switch to a Plant-Based Diet. Sustainability, 12(10), 4136. https://doi.org/10.3390/su12104136Healthy

 
 
 
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